Recently, I’ve been reminded of the phrase, “Baby Steps.” This was a phrase that my teacher in peer counseling class in High School said to me one day when we were discussing the direction of my life and my home life. I’m not sure what exactly I divulged to her during that conversation, but I know it dealt with some sort of frustration of not being able to get through to my parents on a level that they would understand.
When she uttered this phrase, she had picked up on a habit that I have been dealing with for the last 3 decades and that is the habit of “Big” thinking. You see, when some people are taking one or two steps toward the directions of their goals, I am already trying to get to step 100 to try and win the race quickly. My mind can see the final outcome of the things or dreams that I want and well like Veruca Salt, “I want it now!”
What perpetuates this mindset is the Law of Attraction. If you watch the movie, “The Secret” it seems as if you can get what you want just by thinking about it. You just think about it and it will appear. Intellectually I have of course told myself that you need to work towards your goals and dreams, hold the thought in your mind and eventually it will appear. However, because of these ingrained habits that I have developed since I was a child, I wanted them to happen immediately.
In reality, you can almost always get the things you want, but you have to remember to take small baby steps towards those things. They don’t just happen instantly and creating shortcuts to get what you want, most of the time does not work.
For example, if your idea is to start a company or build a website, start small. Jot down some ideas for the company, research best website builder sites. Don’t set out in one sitting to build the website. Approaching tasks like this will only leave you frustrated and overwhelmed. Instead, start with the first step and celebrate all of the little accomplishments along the way.
Remember, it’s the journey that makes like great, not the destination.